Public Service Announcement to all you Soon-to-be-Grooms
Public Service Announcement to all young (or old) men who are planning to get married: Unless your soon-to-be-bride has a super fun-loving, playful personality and really enjoys practical jokes, she is probably not going to enjoy having cake smashed in her face during the reception.
Here's the thing, if you are really paying attention to the process of planning the wedding and the preparation on the day of the ceremony, you probably know that your fiancé has spent a LOT of time and money on the wedding. Her goal, aside from marrying you, is to have a day full of memories she will carry for the rest of her life. She wants to look the best she ever has or ever will look. On the day of the wedding she will likely spend hours perfecting her hair and make-up and donning a dress that cost her (or her parents) hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars. There will be a photographer and maybe even a videographer capturing every moment so that she (and maybe even you) can enjoy the memories for the rest of your life.
Smashing cake in her face after she has gone to all that expense and time is just plain disrespectful -- and honestly pretty immature. And it means that for the rest of the night this beautiful woman -- whom you just vowed to love, honor and cherish, by the way -- will be worried about how bad her make-up might be smeared or thinking about icing that might be stuck in that hairstyle she spent so much money on earlier in the day.
Plus, that little moment you think will be SO hilarious will likely leave her feeling at least a little resentful toward you even though she will put on a good face on it in front of all those wedding guests. She may act as though she is laughing it off, but inwardly your choice will have pricked a hole in the lovely romance bubble she should be enjoying on your wedding day together.
Don't do it. Just. Don't.
And to you pastors out there, you should probably include "The Cake Smash Tradition" in the pre-marital counseling to make sure both parties are extremely clear on what should -- or shouldn't -- happen on the wedding day.
The End.
Here's the thing, if you are really paying attention to the process of planning the wedding and the preparation on the day of the ceremony, you probably know that your fiancé has spent a LOT of time and money on the wedding. Her goal, aside from marrying you, is to have a day full of memories she will carry for the rest of her life. She wants to look the best she ever has or ever will look. On the day of the wedding she will likely spend hours perfecting her hair and make-up and donning a dress that cost her (or her parents) hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars. There will be a photographer and maybe even a videographer capturing every moment so that she (and maybe even you) can enjoy the memories for the rest of your life.
Smashing cake in her face after she has gone to all that expense and time is just plain disrespectful -- and honestly pretty immature. And it means that for the rest of the night this beautiful woman -- whom you just vowed to love, honor and cherish, by the way -- will be worried about how bad her make-up might be smeared or thinking about icing that might be stuck in that hairstyle she spent so much money on earlier in the day.
Plus, that little moment you think will be SO hilarious will likely leave her feeling at least a little resentful toward you even though she will put on a good face on it in front of all those wedding guests. She may act as though she is laughing it off, but inwardly your choice will have pricked a hole in the lovely romance bubble she should be enjoying on your wedding day together.
Don't do it. Just. Don't.
And to you pastors out there, you should probably include "The Cake Smash Tradition" in the pre-marital counseling to make sure both parties are extremely clear on what should -- or shouldn't -- happen on the wedding day.
The End.
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